Equality is the most played out of U.S./Western ideals. Great in principle, laughable in reality. When we say we value equality what do we really mean? What do we want it to mean?
My view is equality is an ideal to be applied to opportunity. That is, everyone should have the opportunity to try whatever they want (assuming it doesn’t hurt anyone else). Whether it’s an occupation, a food, an identity, whatever. Equality is not an ideal to be applied to outcomes. You might be terrible at a job, that food might kill you if you are allergic, your identity might be offensive. It’s not up to others to ensure that your outcomes are good and equivalent to the outcomes of others.
Similarly, equality does not apply to starting points. There was a discussion on here recently (racist stamps? nigger?) that I think devolved into people arguing about how anyone should be able to use slang terms if they are acceptable to the group they identify. But that assumes equality of starting points, of which there is none. Why is it ok for a Black person to say "nigger" but not a White person? Because these people are not equal (and whining about it doesn’t make a difference).
On another board, some women in a photo unrelated to their appearance were described as "striking." Several guys objected, saying that this objectified them. Other guys responded, complaining that there would be no outcry if men were similarly obectified. A classic example of equality gone bad. Men and women are not equal (in this sense). What it means to talk about a women’s appearance is often different than what it means to talk about a man’s. People do not occupy the same niches and we should not pretend that they do.
(obligatory positiveman disclaimer: I’m not saying people can’t move or become more equal on qualities like intelligence. No support here for the Nazi breeding programs.)